On Refinement and Rest {a book recommendation}

God weaves people in and out of our lives for our good and for His purpose. Today, I’m excited to share an example of this truth with you.

One morning last fall, I filled out the back of my Jenze calendar, then posted a picture on Instagram and forgot about it.

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My dorky caption for this picture last fall was: “Seriously? That’s all I got? Yep. And a shout out to my Diet Coke.”

At the same time, unbeknownst to me, my friend Kris was feeling a tug to write and publish a book about her heart-wrenching journey through Lent the previous year. This was not a book she ever dreamed of writing. It would be a hard book with a message of the all-important, yet unattractive, refining process that takes places when you allow God to work in your life. Because as they say, He accepts you right where you are, but he loves you too much to let you stay there.

Kris remembered seeing my silly picture on Instagram and contacted me. She shared her project with me, and gave me the privilege of reading her story in its earliest stages.

I remember reading the very first draft of her story. I couldn’t put it down.

I went on to offer my suggestions. My services. And I realized, slowly, that this may be something more than a one-time dream come true.

But I didn’t want to push it.

I decided to rest in the fact that if it was meant to be the start of something more, God would orchestrate it.

In the weeks that followed, other writers started telling me about their writing projects. I was doing nothing different, but opportunities began to take shape.

I decided it was time to offer my editing services. Formally. So, Soleil Editing was born.

Looking back, I’m amazed at how so many seemingly small decisions over the last year have led me straight to this post.

Now it’s time for Kris’ book to make its way into the hands of readers. Your hands, if you want it.

I’m so proud of her. I’m also inspired by her.

God used rejection and perceived failure to get Kris’ attention, to get her heart back on the right track. His track. And when you are humbled, you have two options. You can either get angry about it, which leads to all sorts of ugly behavior like wallowing in self-pity, lashing out at loved ones, and ultimately results in a closed off heart. Or you can accept the humbling. Admit you’ve been wrong. Done wrong. And we all have been there. Are there.

Self examination is difficult at best and horrifyingly painful at worst.

~Kris Camealy, Holey, Wholly, Holy: A Lenten Journey of Refinement

Remember this post about the importance of knowing the Bible? Well, I still believe it. And the Bible says that, in Christ, the weak are made strong. The humble are lifted high. Kris was humbled. She moved past the pain of rejection. She grew courage. She wrote her story. And now she shares it with you.

With God it’s all or nothing. Loving God halfway is the same as not loving Him at all. Loving Him out of mere obligation is equally useless.

~Kris Camealy, Holey, Wholly, Holy: A Lenten Journey of Refinement

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If you’re looking to dig a little deeper during the weeks leading up to Easter, I whole-heartedly recommend Holey, Wholly,
Holy: A Lenten Journey of Refinement.
It’s free to newsletter subscribers and is also available for purchase through Amazon (Kindle or paperback).

Speaking of Lent, last year I tried to give up complaining. The second day of Lent, my life was turned upside down and that ”sacrifice” was thrown out the window. I failed miserably. But you want to hear something funny? My current client? Well, her book is all about breaking the habit of complaining. Yup. God knows what He’s doing. 

Project WriteItDown :: Week 20 {the end}

We made it to the last week of 2012 and the end of Project WriteItDown. This is the time to flip back to August and read where you’ve been over the last few months.

Even if you only wrote one page worth of something, take the time this week to read it.

I hope you’re encouraged to keep documenting life {and its precious details} through writing.

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In Light of Friday {Project WriteItDown}

By far, the worst part of growing up is the popping of the bubble.

Inside the bubble, life is blissful.

Inside the bubble, it’s all about me. My school, my work, my wardrobe, my friends, my boyfriend, my wedding, my home, my life.

But then one day, almost out of the blue, you find yourself standing outside of your deflated, wrinkled bubble. Sometimes the bubble pops – explodes – with some event. Other times, it gets a small hole and the air slowly seeps through the opening.

And outside the bubble?

You find yourself standing shoulder to shoulder with a bunch of others whose useless bubbles lay flat on the ground.

To the right of you stands a woman whose mom is losing, and I mean losing, her battle to a disease that tears the body to shreds when it takes hold.

To the left of you stands a dad who is watching his mom slip away slowly, gradually.

Just beyond him someone is experiencing the loss of a best friend.

And then, just when you think you can slip back into your bubble for a season – a holiday season full of twinkling lights, lighthearted movies about grown men who think they’re elves, and sugar in the form of cookies, candies and eggnog – just then, you find yourself standing further from your bubble than you ever expected to allow yourself to go.

You’re in Connecticut in spirit, standing among the mommies who are burying their babies instead of wrapping their presents. Women who have no option of bubble-living this Christmas.

Their bubbles have been blasted through with no hope of repair. Ever.

Today I have no comforting thoughts. No links to thought-provoking words. Just sadness. And lots of it.

Friday morning, before tragedy struck, I prayed a prayer for all the moms of the world trying to resurrect their bubbles. A verse had come to mind, and I prayed it for these women. All of them. I knew the verse, but had to look the reference up to be sure. Hebrews 12:3 – do not grow weary and lose heart. I tweeted it after the prayer.

By Friday afternoon, I was driven back to that verse and to the words before and after the part I had been led to pray. And the words told me to fix my eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfector of the faith. Consider Him. Consider Jesus, who endured the cross for the joy before Him. He endured opposition. He endured the cross, scorned its shame. Consider Him, so you don’t grow weary and lose heart.

When you first discover the life that exists outside your bubble, you fight to get back inside. But you can’t. You can’t un-hear what you hear outside the bubble. You can’t un-see what is seen.

Outside of the bubble, for miles in every direction, I see heartache, pain, and suffering. Outside of the bubble, there’s no denying that life is not about me.

After awhile, if you know Him, you consider Jesus. And even in this world of deflated bubbles, you don’t grow weary and lose heart. Instead, you find the newbies. The ones whose bubbles are bursting. And you run to them. You find the ones who are suffocating under limp bubbles that have flattened beyond living, and you gently guide them out into the reality of a burst bubble.

I’m just coming to this place myself. I have no idea how to come alongside the bubbleless.

But I’ll do my best to try.

We’ve been writing life down for 19 weeks now. This is the last week of Project WriteItDown. If you’re playing along, I hope you’ll continue to write this week and join me next week for the grand finale – rereading where you’ve been over the last four and a half months.

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Project WriteItDown :: Week 18 {Kinda}

So here we are, most of the way through week 19, and I’m just now asking how your week 18 went.

‘Tis the season!

I did write last week. Once.

Just a week and a half left! Thanks to those who have stuck this out with me. I know you’ll have some smiles when you’re reading through your notebooks very soon!

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Project WriteItDown :: Week 17

We are getting so close now!!  Three weeks until we close the book on Project WriteItDown.

How’s it going?

It seems someone else already wrote my weekly post of encouragement this week. So please, meet Lisa Jo and read about why she’s writing it down. {Thanks for the beautiful post this week, Lisa! It was just the reminder *I* needed.}

I have a holiday gift guide {of sorts} to share with you when I find a minute. Until then, go write something worth remembering!

 

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Project WriteItDown :: Week 16

bigSIS turned three this weekend, so you know what I’m writing down this week.

We had fun spoiling her with donuts for breakfast, a roomful of balloons, a few presents {and lots more from family} and cake pops. Have you tried the cake pops at Starbucks?

When she woke up on her birthday, she said, “I’m not that much bigger at all.”

Poor, petite girl.

We’re in the home stretch now. My Project WriteItDown notebook is halfway full of stuff. I’m looking forward to reading through it in four short weeks!!

Take some time today to write a few holiday weekend memories down!

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Project WriteItDown :: Week 15

What else can I say this week?

It’s only fitting to take a few minutes and write down all the things you are thankful for this year.

Right?

Happy Thanksgiving to you all!

Week 15. Just five weeks left. Still time to get back into the practice of writing it down. Start today!

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Project WriteItDown :: Week 14

I’ve been home the last couple of days with the kids – lots of doctor’s appointments involving needles. Ick. And lots less time to stop and write in my journal.

I’m also spending time editing an exciting project for a friend of mine. I’m hopeful for the chance to do a lot more editing in the future. It’s truly a dream come true.

So, those are my excuses for only writing once in the last week. And why I’m late with this check in post. I sure am glad I’m being intentional about writing in my journal. Otherwise, I know these last couple of weeks would have been lost in all the commotion.

Week 14. Are your pages filling up?

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Project WriteItDown :: Week 13

In my little world, Christmas is starting to creep in. Do you feel it, too?

I spotted a Christmas tree as theBOY fast-forwarded through commercials last night.

We took bigSIS and lilBRO to have their Christmas pictures taken yesterday.

Spotify wants me to subscribe to Disney’s Christmas playlist. And it’s tempting.

We have two birthdays and a little holiday called Thanksgiving to enjoy before diving into full Christmas mode, but the anticipation is mounting!

I’m also reminding myself to slow down and write down a few things that happened this past weekend. Now’s the time to write down my memories from lilBRO’s birthday bash and this: bigSIS told me that I am her best friend!! My heart melted. I know it won’t last, so I’m writing it down.

Week 13, and I’m still writing. Are you?

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Project WriteItDown :: Week 12

I write when I want to remember.

I write when I am inspired by something beautiful.

I write to make sense of my thoughts.

Mostly, I write when I can’t not write – when I can’t stop thinking about the thing until it is written.

Are you writing with me? Why do you write?

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